and scrap it altogether, dating is an important part of life for many people.Unfortunately, it seem like there is a long list of rules and guidelines that you should listen to one minute, and ignore the next.After dating off and on for fourteen years, I know I did.Think about it any longer, though, and you’ll probably dismiss their story as ancient and out-dated, as irrelevant for twenty-first-century Christians.The dating tips you've likely heard over the years, either before you started dating or more recently, can change from time to time from person to person.There are some pieces of outdated dating advice to ignore entirely, however, because they just don't make sense anymore.Our media and societal lexicon is full of stereotypes and misconceptions like: young straight women should want to be married and have children, lesbians settle down quickly or never, young men should want to stay single and promiscuous, and asexual folks are erased.
Date smarter, don't make it any harder than it already is. Approaching someone and putting yourself out there can be scary.Below, real twenty-something women share the advice they hope they never have to hear again."I don't like getting prying comments about my personal life at other people's weddings or engagement parties." —Elle M., 24"I hate any advice that is focused around all the things I can change about myself in order to get a guy.First, maybe dating isn't my sole goal in life and it's healthy to be single sometimes, and second, I want to eventually find a guy who likes who I am now, not the change person that I am to try to impress him." —Missie L., 23"All that phrase does is set people up to end perfectly wonderful relationships because they don't have some mystical feeling of 'knowing.' No thanks." —Sandra R., 28"I don't like people telling me I to let a guy pay on the first date, and that if he doesn't, he must not be a keeper. But if I'm on a date with him then it's a chance to enter into a potential relationship as , where I am perfect capable of paying myself, not a weird social transaction where he is showing that he could someday 'provide for me.'" —Maggie L., 23"I've been told a few times that if I only lost ten pounds (or, my great-aunt's favorite, if I would just bother to wear more lotion in the winter so my hands were softer to hold), I would have much more luck on the dating market.Someone who's meant for me won't care about those things." —Liz K., 21"So not helpful!" —Sarah G., 24"I think your exes can cause you to develop some toxic relationship habits and it's important to be able to talk about that with your current S. It's one thing to ask your close girlfriends what they think about that dude you just started seeing, but it's another thing entirely to have your middle-aged aunt (or worse, a friend who is smug about having what she sees as a "perfect relationship") swoop in and act like they know everything about what you want from your love life.